After contemplating the Appearance category during my Evaluation, I realized that how I look is really important to me. The more I’ve paid attention to it, the more I’ve realized the way my appearance affects me. When I stopped working to travel, there was a dip in my confidence. Much of that dip had to do with the change in my attire. I was no longer wearing heels and pencil skirts, but jeans and comfortable walking shoes. I also no longer took the time to straighten my hair, but wore it curly instead. While I didn’t look bad, the difference affected my confidence. I stopped believing in myself as much, and actually got to the point where I was surprised when Dan was sexually into me. (Much to his surprise, since his view hadn’t changed of me.)
On the flip side, the more attractive I feel, the more worthy of love I feel. I know that’s not the way I’m “supposed” to view things, but I won’t come alive by censoring my heart with supposed to’s, but by dealing with truth instead. When I feel more worthy of love, I accept love more readily from others and am not as sensitive to criticism. I am also less timid about making mistakes, because I no longer feel shame when I slip up, but can laugh it off as something adorable about myself. Also, the hotter I feel, the more sexual I am. I’m suddenly sassy and flirty, loving how crazy I make Dan.
Confidence = Belief = Strength = Health = Truth = Alive
My appearance goal is to not just to look as good as I can for as long as I can, and to prioritize my appearance because it matters to me, but also to taylor my appearance to reflect how I feel inside. Eg: Power business suits when I need to feel powerful, hot bikinis and 10 bangles an arm when I want to feel young and hot on vacation. I also have a goal of looking good in every situation.
You’ll see posts on Absolutely Tara about what I’m doing to make myself feel more attractive in the Looking Good category.
Glad to have you along,