A Guide to Training People How to Treat You

You Have to Train People How to Treat You

“Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got.” – Janis Joplin When I was going through group counseling as a teen (in my pregnancy school), I had a hard time understanding why, when a girl was complaining about a relationship she had, the counselor would shift the focus back to the girl. How could she change to improve…

If I Could Tell You One Thing

For years I was searching for something that would quench the ever present angst I held within me. It was as if there were questions hanging in the wind and I needed them answered before I would ever have peace. There were many avenues I traveled, thinking each and every one of them would be…

The secret to connection. A compelling argument.

Is Connection Worth the Risk?

A major theme running through my heart lately has been a need for connection with others. For so many years my focus has been on setting boundaries, because I needed to connect with myself, first and foremost. I chose distance from those closest to me, because they had the largest pull on my heart, and were the most powerful in…

Mother Teresa quote

What is An Alive Heart Really Worth?

“Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway.” -Mother Teresa If I could choose the perfect quote for my life, this would be it. But I have to admit it’s not because I’m a living example, but because I need to have it engrained in my mind so I can continue in some way, shape,…

This one question will bring you into the moment and help you to articulate what direction you're heading

What’s Your Growth Edge?

Years ago my father (who has a background as a marriage and family therapist) ran a small get together at our house where he would ask one simple question to everyone in attendance, “What’s your growth edge?” We’d then go around the room and share, one by one, until everyone had spoken. It seems simple really,…