Is Motherhood how you imagined it?

Is Motherhood How You Imagined It?

I never imagined being a mother. I never thought about my wedding day as a little girl, or dreamt up a home I would one day share with my adoring husband and brood of children. Nope. The only time I ever remember talking about my wedding day was when I was going through a particularly anti-dress…

When we realize we're our mother

The Apple Doesn’t Fall…

Maybe it’s because I was old enough to remember my mother turning 30, but 30 is when I began to notice how much like my mother I am. Mostly it’s mannerisms. We sound alike, act alike, and exclaim in the exact same way.  This completely freaked me out of course. It made me feel so…

5 Steps to Fighting Fair

5 Steps To Fighting Fair

Hitting below the belt, back stabbing, belittlement, the stink eye, throat punching, character assassination, and the good old fashioned slap in the face. I think we can all agree that none of these go-to standards are what we would call, “fighting fair”.   There is nothing more damaging to a relationship than hurtful words said during…

The secret to connection. A compelling argument.

Is Connection Worth the Risk?

A major theme running through my heart lately has been a need for connection with others. For so many years my focus has been on setting boundaries, because I needed to connect with myself, first and foremost. I chose distance from those closest to me, because they had the largest pull on my heart, and were the most powerful in…

Truth cost me everything

Setting Boundaries

  My first major boundary was tentatively set against my older sister. I wasn’t sure I wanted to set the boundary, but I’d noticed that while we were best friends, and our phone conversations always felt positive, every time I got off the phone with her, I felt bad about myself. I’d go into the…